How to talk to my Mom about her addiction?

My Mom has a shopping addiction. She shops all the time-- she buys things on TV, while at work on ebay and goes to a store everynight to buy more stuff. Most of the time it%26#039;s not even for herself -its gifts for other people. She racked up close to $30,000 in credit card debt and my Grandpa bailed her out by giving her the money to pay off her cards. Now less than two years later, she took a home equity loan out for $95,000 and only has $20,000 left available credit. She also has more credit card debt than she had before. I have talked to her countless times but I dont know what else to do. I am scared that she is going to lose her home. I get so frustrated with her and (i hate to admit this) but I am afraid that I am going to get stuck bailing her out and having to let her move in with me. We are really close, but I don%26#039;t want to change my life because she cant control her shopping. What should I do? If I tell her to go to couseling she refuses.... Please give me some advice.

How to talk to my Mom about her addiction?

You don%26#039;t.

My mother-in-law shops all the time and nothing anyone says or does will change her.

How to talk to my Mom about her addiction?

There is nothing you can do for someone elses addiction. Protect yourself, make it clear she cant move in with you. Have only enough bedrooms for you (and your family).

Even if you did bail her out - it would do no good. SHe will do it again. I know someone like this also. It is not hopeless but she has to want to stop and needs to receive therapy.

It%26#039;s such a waste of a life - the shopping is an all consuming addiction. Not alot different than drugs or alcohol.

How to talk to my Mom about her addiction?

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